i was suppose to be just an innocent bystander in it all but i became less than innocent this week. i wouldn’t go as far to say that i was a participant in the conversation but somehow i felt that he influence something that i shouldn’t not have. in all my seperate converations with each respective party, i tried not to take any side but adovcated honesty and take a longer term perspective on the situation at hand. i suggested trying to understand the root of the ‘issue’ and not simply react to the emotional upheavals. for the most part, i didn’t particularly feel comfortable advising as such because i fear that it may cause more short term harm than really help on any long term basis. for the most part, each respective party already had set notions that would have manifest eventually regardless of my involvement. either way, being witness to much suffering, the seed of singlehood grows larger.